First Day Of School 2013

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Wordless Wednesday: Slushie Time

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Enjoying a slushie after a hot afternoon of playing at the park.

First Bath {Wordless Wednesday}

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 It’s so fun looking back at pictures of when my children were babies! I remember giving Jacob his first bath and being so worried about how fragile he was. Nowadays I have to worry about the boys jumping around in the tub and not hurting themselves as they giggle with each other! What a difference a few years make :)

My Little Blue Eyed Boy {Wordless Wednesday}

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First Day Of Soccer {Wordless Wednesday}

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Four Years Ago! {Wordless Wednesday}

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My blog is a few days away from celebrating it’s FOUR YEAR BIRTHDAY!! Wow! In honor of that I thought I’d share some pictures that were taken the week I started the blog {It’s hard to remember Jacob was ever this little…}

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Little Swimmer {Wordless Wednesday}

Jacob on his last day of swim lessons.

Jacob on his last day of swim lessons.

Frosting Face {Wordless Wednesday}

Jacob smeared frosting from his birthday cookie all over his face like shaving cream. lol

Jacob smeared frosting from his birthday cookie all over his face like shaving cream. lol

Disney Cars Themed Birthday Party Ideas

CARS BIRTHDAY PARTY IDEAS

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The boys had a blast at their Disney Cars themed birthday party.

Below are some of the Cars decorations, treats, and fun themed activities we did:

Indoor Fun: Car mat w/ cars

Find a similar rug here: Disney Pixar Cars Racing Interactive Game Rug

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Jacob colored a Lightning McQueen cutout and then we had smaller cars as well to decorate the living room

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The cake table was setup with balloons, some cars cutouts, and the goodie bags

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Dessert #1: Rice Krispie Treat Stoplights- I had planned to dip the rice krispie treats in chocolate before putting the m&m’s on them but we were short on time.

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Dessert #2: Cars cake

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The boys LOVED this huge Cars mural. It was over 5 feet tall. I got it from Party City and plan on finding a permanent home for it in the boys room.

Here is a similar wall mural: Disney Pixar The World of Cars Giant Decorating Kit

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I found this trophy and thought it would be perfect for the party. I told them it was the Piston Cup, just like the Cars try to win in the movie. They are still carrying it around days later :)

Here is a similar Trophy Set- Great for Goody Bags

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The kids enjoyed doing a Cars sand art project. It was really messy so I was happy that I’d chosen to do it outside!

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All of the children had fun breaking apart the pinata. I liked this one because all they had to do was pull strings for it to open. The ones that need to be broken open with a bat are not so easy for my young kids to do.

Find one on Amazon here: Disney Cars Lightning McQueen Pinata, Pull String

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I bought Mater party hats but we found them hard to put together. The kids didn’t like them because the hats covered their eyes. This was the one party item I bought that I wish I wouldn’t have.

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At the end of the party the kids got Cars themed goodie buckets overflowing with Cars themed fun.

Overall it was a great party! :)

Happy 4th Birthday, Jacob!

Jacob is 4!

Who Needs Toys? {Wordless Wednesday}

Who needs toys when you can play with boxes? They boys played for over an hour with a few boxes. Here's Jacob pretending to be a robot.

Who needs toys when you can play with boxes? The boys played for over an hour with a few boxes. Here's Jacob pretending to be a robot.

Jacob’s School Picture- Spring 2012 {Wordless Wednesday}

Picture by Lifetouch

Picture by Lifetouch

Wordless Wednesday: Craft Time

Look, Mom!

Wordless Wednesday: My Little Soccer Player

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Wordless Wednesday: Heart

Jacob put this together and showed me it. Doesn't it look like a heart?!

Jacob put this together and called me over to the table. Doesn't it look like a heart?!

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First Day Of Preschool

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Jacob had his first day of preschool on Friday so I wanted to share about it :)

We started a “night before school” tradition where the kids get to pick the restaurant they want to go to. Jacob chose pizza so we headed to a local pizza place. After dinner we came home and the boys had baths and we read some books about going to school for the first time.

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The next morning I woke up earlier than everyone else and started getting ready for the day. Daddy had taken the morning off work too so he could watch his oldest son go to his first day of school. He helped get the kids ready. Outfits had been picked out the night before which helped save time in the morning. Sinisa made the boys a hot breakfast of scrambled eggs and nutella on toast which they enjoyed. The backpack was filled with school supplies and ready to go. Before we left the house I took a picture of Jacob standing by the front door, something I remember doing every single year growing up on the first day of school.

We drove to Jacob’s school and got there pretty early. We aren’t allowed to bring the kids in to the school which I was kind of bummed about. Teacher assistants come get them and bring them inside to sit outside of their classrooms until school starts at 8am. When the teacher came and opened his door, Jacob seemed leery about going with someone he didn’t know and he didn’t want to wear his backpack but after a minute or so he let the teacher lead him away from the car.

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When we came back two and a half hours later we waited in a long line as we watched children come out of the building and get into their parent’s cars. We spotted Jacob before he saw us and I tried to get another picture of him but couldn’t because other cars were in the way. When we finally got closer he saw our car and his face lit up.

As soon as he got in the car I was wanting to know about his day. He said he played with playdough and read books. He seems very excited to return so we shall see how drop off goes today!

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Has your child started school yet? How did the first day go?

Wordless Wednesday: Jake’s Three Year Pictures

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These pictures were all taken at JCPenney Portraits Studio.

(Disclosure: This is not a sponsored post!)

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Wordless Wednesday: Blueberry Picking

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One year ago we went blueberry picking. This is a picture of Jacob and daddy on the wagon to take us to the blueberry bushes.

This was Jacob's first time tasting a blueberry.

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Wordless Wednesday: Jacob’s 3rd Birthday

Cake Time!

Jacob turned three years old this past Saturday. Here are some of my favorite pictures:

Presents were opened first thing in the morning!

Out and About: Pancakes at McDonald's, Walmart, All Aboard Diner

Outdoor Fun

Cake Time!

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Happy 3rd Birthday, Jacob!

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JACOB THOMAS IS:

Joyful

Active

Creative

Outgoing

Busy

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Terrific

Handsome

Oldest

Magnificent

Adorable

Silly

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Happy Birthday to my first born child! I love you so much and am blessed to call you my son!

Wordless Wednesday: Jacob and Jessie

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Mommy and Me Monday: April 2011

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Love this picture of Jacob and I that was taken at JCPenney Portrait Studios this week!

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Wordless Wednesday: Decisions…

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Creating An Art Keepsake

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Though my children are only toddlers I already feel like I’m being buried under tons of art collages, finger paintings, and other artwork. I know as they get older it’s just going to get worse so I decided to create a “brag book” of Jacob’s artwork from his toddler years. I went to The UPS Store with pictures of his artwork on a flash drive and they bound it into a book for me. To see how this was done you can view my whrrl story:

Once I brought my book home it was pretty plain so I wanted to decorate it. I gathered all of my supplies and got to work.

I wanted to first make a new cover for the brag book. I chose a piece of card stock and a couple pictures. I looked through my scrap-booking cabinet and found some fun polka dot frames for the pictures.

I used my X-ACTO knife to cut the pictures down to the size of the frames.

I used my Elmer’s dot runner around the edge of the frame and used it to attach the frame to the picture.

I then used adhesive squares to stick the framed picture to my cardstock.

Once the pictures were on I added a title to my book. I could have been done here but I wanted to add a little more. I chose to add some squiggles with paper and some art-themed stickers.

I attached my cardstock sheet to the old cover page with the Elmer’s craft bond adhesive squares and liked that I had the clear plastic cover over  it to keep the photos safe.

Along with adding a cover I also wanted to label the artwork so I would know when Jacob created each piece. I cut squares out of cardstock and used the adhesive squares to stick one on to the back of each artwork print.

I then wrote a date on each one. Here’s the label for the picture of the hearts Jacob painted on Valentine’s Day:

Here are some before and after pictures:

 

Artwork prints waiting to be bound

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Artwork bound at The UPS Store

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The finished product

I’m #LovinLogistics and #GlueNGlitter :)

(Disclosure: This project has been compensated as part of a social shopper insights study for #collectivebias. All thoughts are my own.)

My Little Leprechaun

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Jacob ~8 months

Happy St. Patrick’s Day!

Wordless Wednesday: Jacob and Lucas

Jacob and Lucas

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Here’s the boys’ newest picture taken at JcPenney Portraits. We moved in November so when we had to switch studios I was disappointed because I loved our photographers. I think the photographer at this new studio did a great job with my two little wiggle worms and actually got shots of them both sitting together so I was very happy! :)

*Please note: This post is NOT sponsored. I just really, really love JcPenney’s studios!*

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Wordless Wednesday: Monkey Boy

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Wordless Wednesday: Painting With Daddy

 

This is how Jacob looks after he paints a picture while being watched by daddy :)

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Top Ten Tuesday: Snow Day!

Uh oh! Lost a glove!

After the blizzard here in Chicago we went out to play in the snow. Here are ten of my favorite pictures. See more Top 10 posts on Amanda’s blog.

 

Jacob shoveling snow

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Daddy had to help Lucas walk in some of the snow because it was so deep.

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Jacob making a snow angel

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Lucas is loving his first time playing in the snow

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Jacob and daddy

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Uh oh! Lost a glove!

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Jacob fell in the snow

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I have no idea what Lucas was trying to do but he was looking at the world from a new angle :)

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Jacob kept wanting to take his mittens off so we had to keep putting them on.

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A sign that it's time to go inside? Your child gets a runny nose.

My New Favorite Picture

Love, love, love this picture of Jacob and Lucas!

And notice the hoodies they are wearing? Part of the Splendid Littles For Target collection that I just did a review on. (Becky H. was the winner by the way… if you didn’t win, check Target.com or your local Target. I saw a whole endcap featuring the collection while I was shopping at my local Target today!)

Wordless Wednesday: My Little Toolman

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Jacob loves his new tools!

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Wordless Wednesday: Gymnastics

 

Jacob playing in the foam block pit at his friend Sammie's gymnastics birthday party.

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Wordless Wednesday- Lion Cubs In Love

Jacob found this little girl lion at Boo at the Zoo last year.

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Wordless Wednesday: Making A Splash

Jacob

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4th of July Toddler Sized Sundaes

Red, white, and blueberry sundae featuring Hershey's strawberry syrup

I recently worked with Hershey’s (yes, THAT Hershey’s) on their Summer Celebrations Campaign. I was asked to visit Walmart, take a look at their Hershey’s product selection, create a yummy 4th of July themed snack, and then share my experience on Whrrl. Here is my story on how to make a 4th of July toddler sized sundae. Jacob had a great time and I really hope your child will enjoy making these sundaes, too!

(Disclosure: I was compensated for my purchase and time by Collective Bias on behalf of Hershey’s.)

Fun In The Sun (And A Giveaway)

Jacob and Lucas recently had a playdate with their cousins, Camden and Maddie. They spent most of the time outside in the sun.

Jacob and Camden in their matching swim trunks

Jacob and Lucas eating lunch

Lucas playing in the water

Jacob and Camden eating cupcakes

Jacob playing football

Cousin Maddie

As you can see, all four children are very fair skinned. It’s really important for them to wear sunscreen when they are in the sun like that. Usually we just use a child lotion sunscreen and my boys fight with me to put it on and wiggle around so I end up missing spots or they walk around looking like ghosts because I don’t rub it in all the way. That won’t be a problem anymore with this new sunscreen we received.

KINeSYS sent me some sunscreen to review. I used it the other day and love it. The sunscreen that they make is easy to apply because it can be sprayed on. It comes either unscented or scented (the one I tried was mango scented- yummy).

Here’s a little bit more about the sunscreen from the flyer that came with it:

  • UVA/UVB protection with Parsol 1789
  • Oil-free/ Alcohol-free/PABA-free
  • Preservative-free
  • Very water-resistant and sweat-resistant
  • Hypoallergenic/ Non-comedogenic
  • Over 700 sprays per bottle

Sunscreen for kids

WIN IT!

One winner will receive a bottle of KINeSYS Kids SPF 30 sunscreen.

HOW?

Leave a comment telling me your favorite outside activity. That’s it! (Of course if you want to subscribe to this blog that would be great, too, but not required.)

This giveaway ends July 7, 2010 at 11:59pm. Good luck! :)

(Disclosure: I was provided two bottles of sunscreen in return for an honest review. All opinions are my own.)

Jacob’s 2nd Birthday

Jacob turned two years old on Friday, June 4th. We celebrated his birthday by spending the morning playing at home and after nap went to an indoor play place and a train themed restaurant for dinner. Jacob and Lucas had a lot of fun and I wanted to share some pictures from the day.

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Lucas

Jacob trying to blow his train whistle

Jacob was excited to see the food train coming towards him

Jacob's birthday cupcakes w/ Thomas on them

Enjoying the frosting and his new Thomas ring

Jacob's birthday shirt said "Choo Choo I'm Two!"

Tell me “seasoned” moms… what did you think of this age? Would you call them the “Terrific Twos” or “Terrible Twos”? Jacob has tons of energy and is pretty rambunctious but I am thinking this year is going to be terrific anyways :)

Birthday Shirt Review and Giveaway

On Wednesday Jacob had some of his friends over for a birthday playdate. Here are some pictures of Jacob from the celebration:

See the cute shirt he was wearing at the playdate? Mimi from Mimi’s Babies Etsy shop made it just for him. To customize the shirt I was able to choose what fabric I wanted, what number I wanted, and the name I wanted on the shirt. I loved having a special shirt for him to wear and it will make a great keepsake.

I’ve spotlighted Mimi’s Babies Etsy shop before and I am doing it again because I absolutely LOVE their handmade items. You can order one of these shirts from their shop or enter to win one here. I’m excited that Mimi’s Babies will be giving one lucky winner a customized birthday shirt of your choice.

Mandatory entry: To have a chance at winning you must leave a comment below letting me know one other item you love from their shop.

Extra entries: For extra entries you may do any of the following (be sure to leave one comment for each):

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7) Tweet about this giveaway (please leave link to your tweet). Must include link to this post in your status update.

This giveaway will end on July 5, 2010 at 11:59pm. Please make sure to leave your email address so I can contact you if you win.

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Happy Second Birthday, Jacob Thomas!

Two years ago today I gave birth to my first child.

Last year he turned one.

And today he is two.

I love him so much and I’m proud to be his mother! Happy 2nd birthday, Jake!

Wordless Wednesday: Chocolatey Mess

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Wordless Wednesday: Toy Story Birthday Party

Here are some fun pictures from my nephew’s third birthday party this past weekend:

The Birthday Boy

The Birthday Boy's Sister (Maddie)

Jacob

Lucas

Camden And His Cousins In Their Matching Shirts... Love It!!

For A Special Three Year Old…

Happy 3rd Birthday to my nephew, Camden!! Look at the pictures of this cutie:

Newborn

One Year Old

Two Years Old

Three Years Old

And Happy Birthday to Camden from your cousins, Jacob and Lucas.

Camden, Jacob, and Lucas- June 2009

Camden, Jacob, and Lucas- May 2010

WE LOVE YOU AND HOPE YOU HAVE A FANTASTIC DAY TODAY!!!

Wordless Wednesday- Brothers

Jacob and Lucas- May 2010

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Wordless Wed.- Too Cool

Too Cool!

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Mommy and Me Monday

April 2010

Mommy and Me Monday at Really, Are You Serious? Hosted by Krystyn

April 2010

Do you notice that both my boys aren’t looking at the camera? Typical… :)

Slow Down

As I sit here and think about all the things that I have to do this weekend I have been hearing “slow down”. Maybe it’s God’s voice. Maybe it’s my brain telling me that if I overload it with one more thing it will explode. Maybe it’s my body telling me it needs to relax….

Whatever it is, I’m listening and I’m obeying the voice.

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I will not hurry to go anywhere.

I will not do a load of the laundry that’s piling up.

I will not get online and work on blogging.

I will not talk with friends on twitter or facebook.

I will not notice that dust bunny under the hall table.

I will not clean up the boys room while they play.

What will I do?

I will spend all morning playing with and loving my boys.

I will spend all morning cherishing every smile and giggle.

I will spend all morning watching my oldest attempt to count his fingers and my youngest as he starts to walk.

I will spend all morning thanking God for the wonderful gifts He has given me.

What will you spend the morning doing?

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Wordless Wednesday- Laughter

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Jacob- 4 months old

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Pregnancy Loss- Coping With The Loss Of A Twin

I lost a child during pregnancy in 2007. Avery was one of two babies that I was carrying, and is my son Jacob’s twin. According to the doctor what happened was called “vanishing twin syndrome” and was “normal”. To me, the mom of twins that was going through this, it wasn’t normal. It wasn’t just “any baby”, a part of a statistic that my doctor could rattle off… it was my baby.

What follows is a writing that I found online years ago. I don’t know who the author is but when I read it I thought “wow, that is how I feel”. This person put into words what I could not so I wanted to share it with you.

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“One twin”–it seems like a contradiction in terms…It was not something we ever would have imagined at the time of learning that we were expecting twin babies, and everything became “twos”. Yet for so many of us, because of the high risks in pregnancy and birth, it is the way it turned out: we have one to care for and raise while missing and mourning for his or her twin. We experience all the realities of becoming a parent at the very same time as all the realities of becoming a bereaved parent, and all in one package. Not this year and next year, but all at once now, and “my twins”. We grieve for our baby and for our twins being together, and we worry about the impacts on our survivor. It is often a deeply sad, confusing, and physically and emotionally exhausting time. We’re the last ones who need to be told to be grateful when a baby lives–yet finding joy in our survivor can be a huge challenge, for so many reasons, even though we need and want to all the more, and want our child to be happy.

As if this weren’t enough, many of us experience feeling like we don’t fit in anywhere, and that no one understands what we are having to go through and cope with. We also usually receive comments by others who may mean well but aren’t trying to “get it”, urging us to downplay or even deny our loss. (Like we want to hurt so much–but it hurts more to act like this baby was the only one or that our other child didn’t matter.) With all the attention paid to living multiples, and little shown of the risks and realities, it is also easy to feel that we truly are the only one and are much more unique than (sadly) we actually are.

Just when others think we are or should be doing fine, is often when we need the most support. Later also there are pressures from others and from within ourselves to be “fine”, to be coping, to not expect to spend much time thinking about our baby who died or doing what we need to do in relation to him or her. Sometimes we get used to putting our grief to the side and then it can seem scary to get in touch with it when we do have the opportunity or the need.

But–we have the same amount of grief as anyone who loses a baby, plus the grief for “my twins” and the concern for our survivor, and so it gets stretched out over a fairly long period of time–longer, not shorter because of having a survivor, and complicated, not “easier”. Besides our sheer feelings of losing our baby, we have a great deal to re-live and process emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and even physically about what happened, “why” it happened, and how to somehow integrate it all into our ongoing life. While all that is going on, we are dealing with a birthday which is also the birthday, and then the anniversary, of our twin who died…other landmarks and day-to-day reminders…issues about talking to our survivor and about what they may be feeling.

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*I love and miss you, Avery*

If you have gone through a pregnancy loss, or are currently going through one, please know that I am here for you if you need somebody to talk to. I can’t say that I understand exactly what you are going through but I can listen and pray for you.

(If you are the author of this writing please let me know so I can thank you and name you as the creator of this work.)

Wordless Wednesday- Easter Egg Hunt

Easter Egg Hunt (2009)

Easter Egg Hunt (2009)

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Favorite 2010 Easter Pictures

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Lucas gives this Easter a "thumbs up"

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